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Becoming an Excellent Human: Five Great Ideas from Aristotle
It was Socrates who said that the purpose of philosophy is to help each of us become “an excellent human”. That seems like a respectable and reasonable big-picture goal for every person on the planet. But what about the specifics? How do we become excellent humans? How can we use philosophy in our everyday lives to help us succeed in this most important goal as homo sapiens? The surprising thin. . .
Massage Your Mind!: Tackling Your Angus Issues
I read a quote in one of those celebrity columns recently that just blew me away. It’s not that I believe everything I read, especially when it comes to Hollywood, but for the sake of discussion, let’s assume that the quote was correctly stated. It was attributed to Angus Young, member of the band AC/DC. Think big arena rock, throbbing bass, and screeching vocals. You could identify an AC/DC so. . .
Your Hidden Salary
If I were to ask you about how well your company pays you, (and you were to trust me enough to tell me), what kind of information might you give? Assuming the trust existed, you might well tell me the annual, monthly or weekly figure and then wait for me to say something. This is the normal, everyday response we would be inclined to give. In reality though, you are likely to have more or less t. . .
The Power of Touch
“It is the magic of a touch, the power of a hug . . . that make life joyful.” This is a portion of my essay in high school. My teacher loved it. She even thought that a professional writer honed the article for me. Her skepticism was a compliment at the time. Her disbelief was a subtle way of saying that I had some writing ability. You know what? I bragged about it for days!What is the power of. . .
Positive thinking on negativity
POSITIVE THINKING ON NEGATIVITYThe other day I bought an unusual piece of software: It runs positive affirmations on my computer, so they can influence me while I work. Sentences like “I am full of confidence” or “I love everyone I meet”. The kind that is supposed to help me so that I stop being negative. I liked the idea, but much to my surprise, it didn’t feel completely right.I just couldn’t. . .
Take Control of Your Health
“I’m sorry. It’s malignant.”Hundreds of people hear that phrase every day. Those four words can leave your imagination running at 110 miles an hour. Once the initial stunned numbness has worn off, then the riot of emotions sets in; fear, anxiety, grief and, for some, resignation.All of these reactions are perfectly normal and natural. The human psyche has that built-in survival mechanism to hel. . .
Living In The Now
I hope you are sitting down as you read this! You cannot begin to work on this kind of subject without addressing the subject of time itself – and when was the last time you did that?There are three basic areas or modules of time that are most commonly referred to: 1)The Past2)The Present3)The FutureWhat I would like to do is have you work out where the “present” is though. In the time it has t. . .
Self, Soul and Parables
Self, Soul & Parables: Maurice Turmel PhDParables and mythical stories have been with us throughout time. From the earliest of cave drawings to modern writing and film parables, as guides to human experience, have been a source of inspiration throughout history. They are the teachers that guide us through challenges confronting us at different stages in our lives. Parables provide us with image. . .
Grieving Our Losses
Grieving Our Losses: Maurice Turmel PhDWhat is it about Grief & Loss that upsets us so much? Is it the heavy duty emoting that we have to do to get through our suffering? Is it the fear we have about opening ourselves to all this pain? Because, let’s face it, it’s hard down there, in the land of grieving where all those emotions toss us around like a cork on a stormy sea.We understand that this. . .
The Process of Change
Want to stop biting your nails? How about quit smoking? Perhaps you would even like to change your thought patterns in order to assist in your own medical treatment. All of this, and so much more, is possible once we learn how to focus on positive thought patterns. On average we have 50,000 - 60,000 full and complete thoughts every day. Of those thoughts, because we are such creatures of habit,. . .
Learning What You Need To Learn
After much soul searching heres what i concluded.....Read, Remember and Repeat is not learning although that is precisely how most sysytems of education measure what their students have learned. I can remember my days in High School when i needed to pass a test, all i had to do was read, remember and repeat everthing i learned and it worked for me but after the test i forgot everything i learne. . .
Cure Your Burnout!
Do you ever get those Sunday night blues? Dreading the week ahead, feeling the daily grind just draining away all of your energy before the week even starts? Or what about those days where you just feel like you are going through the motions and not really being present in your own life?We’ve all been there – burned out. Recently I received the following email:I work from a home office and my l. . .
Change Your Thinking
Autumn in New England is a sensual experience. Wood-smoke fires fill the night sky with ghostly images. The air is scented with ready-to-pick apples and burning oak from hearth fires. Maple trees don their cloaks of red, orange and yellow for one lastbrilliant display of color. The honking of geese overhead signals that another season has passed. And, in the midst of all this beauty and decay, . . .
Are You Addicted To Your Activities?
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Are You Addicted To Your Activities?Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret PaulWeb Address: http://www.innerbonding.comWor. . .
the High EQ, Low EQ Sales Quiz
In addition to my coaching, and my usual comings and goings this past couple of months, I’ve been in the real estate business, selling my own home, and working with a coaching client who wants to buy a house in Alabama. I’ve seen a lot of people trying to sell things lately and thought I’d share with you High EQ, Low EQ in the sales world. EQ—Emotional Intelligence—is all those “soft” skills th. . .
10 Red Flags in Dating Relationships
10 RED FLAGS IN DATING RELATIONSHIPSWhen starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for thefuture. Then, down the road, comes the exclamation ‘If I had only known...’.As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few menin the field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can alwa. . .
The Eight Most Common, Yet Frustrating Traits of the Arrogant Boss
Is your or your boss’s determination to prove leadership ability unconsciously translated to an aggressive, know-it-all style? Do you find that management insists that you provide “the goods” but when it comes to lending support, they generally appear inaccessible?What is arrogance, but an over-inflated sense of one’s position and value, combined with an attitude that somehow you are above ever. . .
The Pressure of Their World (for Introverts)
Faith Burgess is a bright and charming stay-at-home mom. She has a toddler, Joshua. Faith is an introvert and so is her three year old son. I asked Faith to try and put into words what it was like to be an introvert so I could help get the idea across to my readers. This is the story she told me.My husband has an uncle who is clearly an introvert. I’ve heard him called “quirky”, “cold and humor. . .
Knowing Your Introverted Child
I'm the IntrovertZCoach and my mission in life is to make sure that no introverted child today has to go through what my clients did who grew up in a time when people didn't understand introversion as a legitimate personality type. I hope you know by now that there's nothing wrong with introverts. Let me explain. I took a cruise last summer on Royal Caribbean’s Rhapsody of the Seas. I was the e. . .
Recommended Book List for Introverted Children to Understand Themselves Better
11 Books Your Introverted Child Will Just Love that also Prepare Him or Her for Real LIfeAnne of Green Gables by Lucy Maud MontgomeryComments: Your introverted girl will identify with Anne's vivid imagination and insightful nature. Grades 5-7. This was my introverted niece Alison's favorite book when she was 7.The Ugly Duckling by Hans Christian AndersenComments: A classic comfort for introvert. . .
Jackie Kennedy was the Perfect Introvert
Come of age! Introversion is a legitimate personality style. Introverts have special needs and a different kind of self care than their more numerous companions, the extroverts. Jackie Kennedy is almost the quintessential introvert. Let's look at her charcteristics and learn about self care.1. Introverts are territorial.When the paparazzi got too close to Jackie Kennedy she hit them with her pu. . .
Getting Unstuck from Procrastination
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Getting Unstuck from Procrastination Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret PaulWeb Address: http://www.innerbonding.comW. . .
The Princess Who Read Too Much
Elizabeth Houston is a biology research professional. She is an infp type of introvert, called the Healer. Introversion is a legitimate personality type and there are actually 8 different types of introverts. Healers make up a very small percentage of the population, only about 2%. They have a serene and calming effect on others and are committed to personal growth, authenticity and acts of gre. . .
Ask the Pet Psychic
Why Should I? “Ask the Pet Psychic” Did you know that your pet has a mind of its own? Yes, it’s true. Sometimes we think of our pet as an extension of ourselves, but pets have personalities that come through loud and clear. Let me share some of my experiences with you in interacting with pets. The personality of each pet comes through clearly in a reading. Often they have an agenda of items the. . .
Introverts Have Rich Inner Worlds
Here is what one Introvert has to say, primarily about her school years. Shelley McIntyre [fictional name for a real person] is a body worker in the Mission Hills area of San Diego. She grew up in northern California. She has a long-established practice and is excellent at what she does. She is an INFP Introvert , a Healer. This is a rare 1% of the population. The other 1% group is the INTJ Int. . .
Pluto Travels through the Mind
The transformation that is taking place in Americans' attitudes toward mental health is very exciting. Of course, as an astrologer, I see this as the result of Pluto, the planet of transformation, moving slowly through the polar signs of Gemini and Sagittarius. These two signs deal with the workings of the mind.One of my clients devoted her life to a study of the mind. When she was in high scho. . .
6 Steps To Overcoming Your Worst Habit
How ashamed are you of your habit? How much do you want to get over this habit? Thinking about the amount of "satisfaction" you gain from your habit, where would you place it on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest? The apparent satisfaction that you gain from your habits is the real reason that you might fail to overcome them. Whether real or imaginary, it is the value you place on sati. . .
Activities Where Your Introverted Child Can Win!
Parents can be fooled into thinking there’s something wrong with their child for being introverted, especially if they, themselves, are extroverts. Also many teachers, administrators and other relatives who are extroverts may not understand introverted children. You see, introverts make up a small 30% of the population and yet their self image is defined by extroverts who think there is somethi. . .
Let Them Read!
As the IntrovertZCoach, my job is to help my introverted clients develop a positive self image. You see, for many years people didn't understand that introversion is a legitimate personality style. The great psychiatrist, Karl Jung, who was an introvert himself, was the first to give this fact positive validation. That was a great day for introverts!Introverts make up around 30% of the general . . .
How to Communicate with Your Favorite Introvert
Introverts are great listeners, readers and writers. The Internet was invented just for introverts! The only thing they dont do well -- and this is a big one -- is verbal communication.Most introverts dislike talking and even have a violent aversion to small talk. Approach these people respectfully and come to the point as quickly as possible. If you can, let them know a few hours or a day in a. . .
Healing Food Addiction
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Healing Food AddictionAuthor: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret PaulWeb Address: http://www.innerbonding.comWord Count: 813Ca. . .
A 't-crossing' 'i-dotter' - Is This You?
When you make plans for your future, do you try to cross every ‘t’, and dot every ‘I’?If so, welcome to the party!I do it, everyone tends to, but it can lead you down so many blind alleys, you won’t know which way to turn!(Ok, I’m not sure that analogy works either, but stay with me, I’m carryingon!)Here’s why it can be disastrous to be a ‘t-crosser’Firstly, you are unlikely to manage it.You ar. . .
1 Part Of Tomorrow You Can Always Control
‘Surely you can’t control tomorrow, you don’t even know what’s going to happen!’Oooh, good comeback!Ok, here’s what I mean…Obviously I don’t know what’s going to happen to me tomorrow, and I certainly don’t know what’s going to happen to you!It isn’t possible to always control our circumstances, but we can *always* control how we react. We can either react in a positive or negative way.Although. . .
Hallowe'en BOO BOOs for Little Introverted Kids
Hallowe’en is right around the corner. All the kids are really excited, right? Wrong.Not all children are as happy about Hallowe’en as you’d think.Some of our more lavishly celebrated children’s holidays are planned with extroverted children in mind. What about the remaining 30% who are different? 30% of all children are introverts.Please don’t feel sorry for us. We’re not extroverts who failed. . .
Fun? What's That?
A client sent me this email recently. She wants to remain anonymous. See how you feel when you read this.“I'm talking on the phone to CoachLady, my flaming extrovert ex-coach. It's so good to hear her voice again; it's been nearly a year. I’ve reconnected with her for some help on a current issue. We chat a little about this and that, the past and the future. I have a warm feeling in my tummy. . . .
The First 11 Days are the Hardest
There’s so much to discover in a Mercury Retrograde cycle. We astrologers are happy everyone is catching on, but there’s more to it than the usual mess up with computers, electrical appliances, cars, mail and phone messages. Especially now that we’re relying more on email, cell phones and the internet, Mercury becomes more important. After all, it was the Uranus in Gemini generation that brough. . .
1 Simple Key To Happiness
Who is the happiest person you know?Not the happiest person you know *of*, but the happiest person you actually *know*?Maybe someone you work with…?Maybe a friend…?Maybe a member of your family…?Maybe the hot dog seller on the corner…?Do they enjoy what they do?Now, obviously I can’t know who you’re thinking of, but I *can* tellyou whether or not they enjoy what they do.(Ok, here’s a clue, the . . .
Light Up Your Life: Seasonal Affective Disorder
Publishing Guidelines: You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the resource box is included with a live link to my site. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated. ***********************************************************Title: Light Up Your Life: Seasonal Affective Disorder Author: Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSWEmail: m. . .
Returning Out of Your Safe Hole
With tales of rabbits and spacecraft, let me help those of you who are either venturing out into unknown territory or more particularly, those who once more about to make their way in the world after a period of safe haven.There`s a reasonably large area of grass right next to my office, and it is quite common to see rabbits when I arrive in the mornings. They feed of the fresh grass and the la. . .
So Your Child is Introverted!
Let me ask you a question. Are you ashamed that your child is an introvert? An honest answer to this question is a positive step toward improving your relationship with your introverted child, now and forever. How can you support your child in finding his or her place in this world if you are secretly disappointed that they aren't something they can never be ... the life of the party!If you apo. . .
1 Phrase You Didn't Hear At School - But Should Have!
‘Je suis un chat’.That means ‘I am a cat’ in French.I was taught that when I was, ooh, let’s see, maybe 11 years old?I studied French until I was 18, in fact I was quite good at it.Despite the fact that my teacher said I had one of the worst accents she had ever heard, I got a good grade ‘A’ Level.I think can actually remember saying ‘Je suis un chat’ in the spoken exam.Whereas this phrase – ‘I. . .
Awesome Power Of Integrity
Integrity.I could write on and on about it, it’s one of, if not *the* main code I live my life by.Honesty.Truth.All covered by the fluffy cushion of integrity.Treat others as you’d like to be treated yourself, and you won’t go far wrong. If you are treating others in a way that you wouldn’t accept for yourself, you are not operating from a position of integrity.So that’s a very brief but effect. . .
Asteroid Attacks Earth- What's Your Perspective?
I want to talk about perspective.So here’s a little story with the moral at the end…I watched a video this week, the film was 'Deep Impact'.It's about an asteroid on a collision path with the Earth, and ourefforts to avert the disaster.If it hit, it would make a, wait for it, deep impact! You've got tohand to those Hollywood types, haven't you!It came out in 1998, the same year as 'Armageddon',. . .
So What Does Emotional Intelligence Look Like in Real Life?
1.High IQ, Low EQ: A student.There’s a story going around the Chicago area about a student at the U. of Chicago last year. At that venerable high-IQ institution, it’s still a graduation requirement that each student pass a swimming test. A student showed up to take the test and, 3 hours later, after they’d dragged him out of Lake Michigan and the EMS had left, they asked him why he’d shown up t. . .
"Eight Steps to Taking Control of Every Situation in Your Life!"
Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new battles whether we want them or not and whether we're up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another - no choice in the. . .
Emotional Intelligence and the Gentle Art of Conversation
Having just returned from a cruise, where I was seated nightly with a table of 10 strangers, I was reminded of the many definitions of ^emotional intelligence.^When I ask laypeople what EQ means, they respond “common sense,” or “manners,” or “knowing how to get along.” These are good definitions. And nowhere is this more evident than in the gentle art of dinner-table conversation. WHAT ARE THE . . .
Achieve All Your Goals
Achieve All Your Goalsby Alan Tutthttp://www.KeysToPower.comWhat do you want out of life? Most of the people I talk to want to make life easier. They don't really care about dominating the world, or even reaching the pinnacles of success. They want to work a little less, make a little more money, have their relationships be a little more satisfying. There is nothing wrong with this idea. Life i. . .
What Do Women Want?
Please consider this article for your website or ezine.Permission to reprint if byline stays intact. Courtesy appreciated but not necessary if you're busy.TITLE: What Do Women Want?AUTHOR: Susan Dunn, The EQ CoachWORD COUNT: 396 WRAP: 65URL: http://www.susandunn.ccMailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc “What do Women Want?”by Susan Dunn, The EQ CoachFreud’s famous question – what do women want? He claimed i. . .
Clutter-Clearing and Your Authentic Self
Have you ever felt so discouraged, your life so out-of-control, the universe so unresponsive to your needs and desires, that you couldn’t help it: you just had to clean up? By paying attention to these impulses we recognize the deep connection between our personal environment and our innermost selves. It’s as though by shifting the arrangement of our belongings we hope to rearrange the molecul. . .
Words To Live By For The Recovering Rageaholic
Publishing Guidelines: Feel free to publish the following article in its entirety in your ezine, website, or print newsletter. The resource box must be included with an active link. Please send a copy of the publication in which the article appears to: newton@angerbusters.com Word wrap to 60, (653 words)Words To Live By For The Recovering RageaholicBy Newton Hightower, LMSW-ACPA rager, or ragea. . .
10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before You Marry
"10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before Your Marry Someone."by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach1. Is it just sexual attraction? Sexual attraction comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It's not always a basis for living with someone happily. Don't let it "hijack" you. Find out what else is there. 2. Do they like to touch and be touch. . .
Coaching is Like Gardening
"A garden in the early stage is not a pleasant or compelling place: it's a lot of arduous, messy, noisome work -- digging up the hard ground, putting in the fertilizer, along with the seeds and seedlings. So with beginning a story or novel." --Ted SolotaroffThat's like the beginning of coaching, too.ARDUOUS WORKThis is when the client starts working on getting rid of tolerations. These are thin. . .
Use Your EQ When You're the Mother-in-Law
Kelly and I have a great relationship, I'm grateful to say, but I'm still the mother-in-law. If you are one, or have one, you'll probably agree it's a relationship that requires finesse. "Finesse" is another word for "emotional intelligence."All those mother-in-law jokes are out there for a reason. I'd say it's hardest to be the mother of the son, but you might disagree! Anyway, Kelly is marrie. . .
Digging To The Root Of Your Problem
Most people have some aspects of themselves that they would liketo change. But how often do you dig deeply to find the root ofthe problem?You have to address the issues that need to be changed. Withoutdoing this you will be stuck in a cycle of trying to change butyou won't make much progress. Denying that there is somethingholding you back doesn't make it disappear or magically turn youinto who. . .
When Bad Things Happen
It is easy to be spiritually positive and philosophicalabout life when things are going well. Even when exposed tolife’s misfortunes from a distance--distant relatives oracquaintances--it’s fairly easy to conclude that life isbringing them the experiences appropriate to their lives.But what do we do when misfortune strikes close to home,tous or to our immediate family? And how are we to react t. . .
Romance: The Internal Process
Romance: The Internal ProcessIf you grew up in the 80s like I did, you might remember the group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get Enough." It is a song about being obsessed with the idea of being with someone, about needing another person. Romance easily becomes this addiction when we believe that we are not complete without someone else and that we simply cannot get enough of the blis. . .
Top 10 Clutter Busting Tips for 2003
It’s easy, live with clutter and its difficult to move forward, or you will move forward more slowly. Clear your clutter and you will be supported to create the life you dream of.1. Use the Ultimate Clutter Test - ask yourself “Do I love it, do I use it, does it make my heart sing?” Get a no? Put it in a box for the charity shop, to give to someone who will treasure it, or to go to a consignmen. . .
8 Feng Shui Tips to Make Your Own Buds Bloom
Spring is here and all the energy that was laying low andgaining strength over winter is blossoming forth. Springis the time for new beginnings. It’s a time of increasedenergy, new beginnings and sunshine moods.These tips will help you harness this energy.1. OPEN YOUR DOORS AND WINDOWSThe air inside your building is up to ten times morepolluted than the air outside. This is due to buildingpract. . .
Embrace Longevity
Your bedroom is the most important room in your home. Ithas the greatest effect on your health and well-being. While you sleep, your energy fields are particularly receptive to the effect of any imbalance in your surroundings.Feng Shui can help you create an environment where your well-being is enhanced, not compromised. These secrets will enhance the energy in your bedroom, improving your heal. . .
There is No Place to Hide From Feng Shui - Even Temporarily
I once heard this definition of extroverts and introverts:Extroverts process information and issues by talking with others. Introverts do so by going within.I am definitely an introvert, and have set my life up so as to have a lot of time and space to myself. This is how I function best. I know what feeds my soul and I also know when I don’t do these things everything in my life is affected.Som. . .
What You Don't Know About Electrical Appliances
We live in affluent times. We think nothing of using ahairdryer to dry our hair, putting the washing in a machineto clean it, having a television set in our bedrooms andhaving a clock beside our beds, set to bring us ourfavorite radio station as we wake.What if you were getting more than you thought with yourelectric appliances?Research suggests that electromagnetic fields (EMFs) havean effect . . .
Usng Feng Shui to Harness the Power of Your Intention
Master Lin Yun, founder of Black Hat Tibetan Feng Shui, hasstated that making Feng Shui enhancements withoutintention, is only 10% effective. However, add intentionand you'll get a 120% improvement!If you listen to successful people talk about what makesthem successful, one of the elements is being clear aboutwhat they want. And it's not just a vague idea, like to behappy, or to be wealthy. The. . .
14 Feng Shui Tips to Create Romance
Your bedroom is where you're renewed, energized and romantic. It's your sanctuary. Your bedroom will affect your prosperity, relationships and well-being. Everything is connected.Whether you're looking for a new relationship or looking to enhance an existing one, these tips will set the scene.1. Create an inviting sanctuaryWhat is your bedroom saying? Does it reflect who you are, and set the sc. . .
The Power of Focus
Kirk Franklin does not sing well.Kirk Franklin admits that he does not sing well.So how did someone who does not sing well become one of thelargest gospel recording acts today? The answer is that the man can do just about everythingelse. He is a songwriter, choir director, consummateperformer and record producer. As for the singing, hefinds vocalists who sing well to do that for him. But who'sn. . .
You Can Either Have Fun, or You Can Make Money. Not When You Use Your Emotional Intelligence.
Do you think that’s true? You can EITHER have fun OR you can make money, but not both?I’m an EQ Coach. I help people increase their EQ, i.e., those factors that make us happy and successful that don’t pertain to cognition and IQ. Many of my clients don’t come to me specifically for EQ coaching. Let’s just call it a “value-added extra” in my coaching mix.Emotional intelligence means self-awarene. . .
Revolutionary Balance
February 25, 2003 Revolutionary Balance I lay my head on my pillow at night and marvel at the idea I am traveling on the surface of the earth at somewhere near the speed of sound. While spinning at this speed, I marvel that I am also rocketing through space at more than 66,000 miles per hour. I think of the fondness with which evolution is studied and taught, knowing I live not in a strictly e. . .
The Feng Shui of Procrastination
What does procrastination have to do with Feng Shui?Actually, everything! Feng Shui is about the free flow of energy in your environment and in yourself. It’s also about creating environments that support your success and pull you forward.What’s the biggest thing that prevents that flow of energy? Clutter. And what creates clutter? You've got it - procrastination! You can procrastinate about an. . .
Uncover Your Diamond
Uncover Your Diamond:“Ignite Your Inner Light”Stress is a natural part of being human. But contrary to popular belief, stress does not have to be destructive. Quite the opposite, stress can be creative. The fact is that everything in life has been created by elements stressing other elements until something new was born. Ever hear the phrase, “a diamond in the rough?” Think about how coal and r. . .
How To Condition Your Mind For Success
Your mindset is a strong factor in achieving any type of success. By creating S-M-A-R-T goals for yourself you can condition your mind to achieve whatever it is you desire. S- SpecificM- MeasurableA- AchievedR- ReasonableT- Time Specific - Be very specific about what your goal is. Measurable - Make sure you can measure your goal so you know when you have achieved it. Achieved - State your goal . . .
Tips for Making the First Date Bearable
The first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you.1. Keep it in perspective.If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it.2. Keep your expectations in line.Consider possibilities rather than expectations, and you'll be more content with the outcome.3. Plan an activity.You can focus on the activ. . .
Tomorrow Never Comes
Do you do what comes easy to you and tend to put off some of yourmore difficult tasks for later? Most people who procrastinateput stuff off that they should be doing now. They wait til lateror tomorrow. But they fail to realize that tomorrow never comes.Tomorrow is always tomorrow. And today is always today. Byputting things off that you know should get done you're leavingyourself open to put i. . .
Destressing The Stress
I want to say this up front and be emphatically clear. Stressis a self-induced state of mind and not brought on by externalforces.Most of us believe that stress is created by negative outsidestimuli, when in fact just the opposite is true. Stress isbrought on by how we think about the forces we perceive to beacting upon our lives.For example, if you are thinking "I'll never get this report fini. . .
10 Ways To Help Those In Need
10 Ways to Help Those in Need1. Give your time.Volunteer for organizations that work with people in need. Manypeople are hesitant to volunteer because they fear that the timecommitment will be overwhelming. However, most organizationsare happy to accept any help, maybe even a small specific job orassistance with one specific project.2. Be consistent with your plan for giving.There is a great ne. . .
The Top 10 Ways to Choose a Good Partner
Here are the top 10 ways to choose a good partner using your emotional intelligence.1. Sexual attraction is based on a primitive and powerful feeling that can "hijack" us. It comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It is not, in itself, a reason to act or react. Don’t let yourself get "hijacked." Take a second look; get up to your limbic . . .
How to Improve Your Love Life with the Power of Feng Shui
FENG shui (say "fung shway") is the art of creating a home environment that supports the life you wish to live. A key element of feng shui is creating a smooth flow of chi (positive energy) through your space. Chi likes to move through your home as though it were a gentle breeze or a meandering stream. Where it is blocked, the energy becomes stagnant--like a pond choked with algae and fallen le. . .
Re-Inventing Yourself
Throughout life there comes a time when there is a need tochange some aspect of ourselves. Whether it's our physicalappearance or what we believe in - sometimes those parts of ourlives that no longer serve us need to go. We have to re-inventourselves and start from scratch.Sometimes we have to peel away the old layers to see the newtransformed versions of ourselves. And there are times, too man. . .
How Attractive Are You?
What makes a person attractive? I'm sure when most people think of attractive, their first thoughts lean towards the physical aspects: a certain body type, a nice smile, sparkling eyes. But we have all met people who, while very pleasing to the eyes, had such an awful personality that we found them anything but attractive. This confirms that there is much more to attraction than meets the eye.T. . .
When I Grow Up...
One of my favorite commercials was an ad for Monster.com. It showed fresh-faced kids looking into the camera and sharing their dreams for the future. We're accustomed to kids saying they want to be a doctor, or an astronaut, or a ballerina, but instead these kids said, "When I grow up, I want to be a brown nose," and "When I grow up, I want to be in middle management" and "When I grow up, I w. . .
5 Ways to Win the War on Clutter
5 Ways to Win the War on ClutterBy: Dietta L. StewartI had probably walked past that closet a hundred times, each time telling myself how badly it needed cleaned. But each time I had an excuse. A good one too,I’d get to it next weekend. Finally, after many weeks of putting it off I openedthe door to my youngest daughter’s closet. It had been declared a hazardous area, I would need special equip. . .
Express Yourself and Help Others Too!
One of the surest paths to personal growth and well-being is expressing yourself. You can do this through journaling, but there's a more fun way: write articles for the Internet.The web is hungry for information! Webpublishers looking for content for their websites and ezines and you could have just the material they're looking for.As I say in my ebook, "How to Write Articles for the Internet,". . .
Career To Do's for the New Year
Career To Do's for the New Year The start of a new year is a common time when people talk about making changes, particularly when it comes to their jobs. Whether you are seriously ready to make a move or you are still thinking about it, these 5 "Career To Do's" will help get your year started off right. 1. Update your resume. In today's uncertain economy, you need to be ready to move at a mome. . .
Making Use of Your Multiple Personalities
I'm a Gemini, the sign of the twins. We Gemini’s often get accused of being moody, fickle, and a little unpredictable. People claim, on any given day, they don’t know which of the twins they will encounter. But Gemini or not, everyone’s life, to some extent, is made up of multiple characters. We all have several personalities that show themselves depending on the circumstances. * At work we’r. . .
Changing Careers Without Quitting Your Job
When most people hear the term "Career Change" the first thought that often comes to mind is handing in your resignation and pursuing an exciting job elsewhere. This attitude leaves many people neglecting a gold mine of career opportunities within their own company. Changing careers with your current employer is a lot easier than you might think.Staying with your current company has many benefi. . .
Hate It? Gotta Do It? Whatcha Gonna Do?
Sometimes I long for The Equalizer, or those "dirty deeds done dirt quick" guys. What am I talking about? Keeping lists, keeping records - those are two things I really don't like to do. I'm a conceptual person, and little "detail" things drive me nuts. Of course I can DO them. I was an event planner - it's nothing BUT details - but, I prefer to be creative and find other ways. How about you?I'. . .
How To Be The Perfect Guest - Business or Social
When you're invited somewhere as "the guest," you really have a role to play, and it's an active one, not a passive one. You're there to enjoy yourself, but it's also up to you to make a positive contribution to the gathering. Here are some rules to fall back on when you're not sureBEFORE THE PARTYWhen you get a written or e-mailed invitation, R.S.V.P. Those letters stand for the French Respond. . .
Feng Shui for Singles: How to Attract a New Love to Your Life
Despite successful careers, loads of money, fantastic looks or physique, the truth is even the most seemingly “perfect” single people will tell you that they would be happiest if they had someone to love. It is said that there is someone for everyone, it is just a matter of finding that someone. Ay, and to quote Shakespeare, there’s the rub. If you talk to a scientist, you’ll hear that meeting . . .
Start a Conversation and Make a Friend
Many people are shy and just don’t seem to be able to start a conversation or keep it going. Well it’s actually quite a simple skill and is easily learnt. So learn how to get chatting and makea new friend. You may even meet someone special.Here are a few useful tips to get you going:Tip 1 - Don’t talk about yourself until prompted to by the otherperson. People who talk about themselves too much. . .
Whose Fault Was It Anyway?
One of the hardest things for some people to do is to accept the blame for something they did, as in admit they made a mistake. This has to do with authenticity, with being honest with yourself, and with your self-esteem. Perfectionists have the hardest time owning up to a mistake; in fact they would think that way, "owning up," as if there were something terrible to confess.The fact of the mat. . .
The Top 10 Reasons to Live as if There's No Tomorrow
In Memoriam, Thomas Leonard, Founder of CoachVille and The Field of Coaching1. Because we never know when we may die.2. Because we never know when's the last time we'll see a loved one.3. Because it's the worst thing in the world to have someone die and not have told them you loved them.4. Because if you do, you'll model this for others, as Thomas did.5. Because if you've lived as if every day . . .
Don’t Let Downsizing Defeat You
Reductions in workforce have become commonplace in our culture. But no matter how many tales we hear of layoffs, reorganizations, mergers, and downsizing, we are never fully shielded from the impact of an ax swinging in our direction. According to the U.S. Department of Labor’s Bureau of Labor Statistics, employers laid off 171,088 American workers in October alone. Add them to millions of othe. . .
What Is Driving The Corporate Beasts?
What Is Driving The Corporate Beasts? by Bas de BaarWhy does the chicken cross the road? To get to theother side. But why does the chicken want to be on the other side? Perhaps there is more food. Better sunlight. Who knows.Sit behind your desk in your office, or stand wherever you normally do your work, and look around. Look at all those people that are walking by. Some may look like chickens,. . .
New Year's Resolutions Already Out the Window?
The start of the new year seems like the perfect time to start anew, to finally handle something that has been bothering us for quite some time. Yet, despite making all sorts of promises, it's rare that we actually stick with it and make those changes that we claim we want. What is it about saying that we want to make a change and actually making the change that's different? What gets in our wa. . .
The First 10 Things to Do When You're Getting Ready to Move
No one's favorite thing to do, I'm afraid. Well, here's how to make it easy.1. Get the Gooding Accountability System ( http://www.susandunn.cc ).This system will help you organize all the different parts of the move!2. Get the Don't Die at 50 Weekly Organizational Calendar ( http://www.susandunn.cc )to remind you that no matter what this week is like every other week as far as what's really imp. . .
What To Do About Anger
“Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way -- that is not easy.” - Aristotle There’s nothing easy about anger. Artistotle lived in 367 A.D. and things haven’t changed much. Learning what to do “about anger” is one of the great life tasks. Hostility—constant, pervasive anger—is . . .
Alone This Valentine's Day? First Of All, No, You Aren't. Secondly, Here Are Some Ways to ^Defend...
Valentine's Day can range from annoying to dreadful when you aren't paired, so let's put a new spin on this!You probably feel sorry for yourself because you're the Only One who's alone, but if you're alone you're NOT alone. According to the American Association for Single people, 82 million men and women in the United States are unmarried. If you define adults as those over 18, 44% of US adults. . .
How Do You Stay Focused?
Staying focused means getting those distractions out of the way that are keeping you from accomplishing what you want to. Life is full of ways to let ourselves become distracted. Pleasures and competing obligations are always calling to us.WHAT IS A DISTRACTION?What IS a distraction? Take a look at this painting and learn what a distraction is -- http://www15.tok2.com/home/dorian/Greek/Sirens/d. . .
Beauty, Gratitude and the Open Heart
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Beauty, Gratitude and the Open HeartAuthor: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.comCopyright: © 2003 by Margaret PaulWeb Address: http://www.innerbonding.comWor. . .
Resistance to Loving
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Resistance to LovingAuthor: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: margaret@innerbonding.comCopyright: © 2003 by Margaret PaulWeb Address: http://www.innerbonding.comWord Count: 1375Category: . . .
$75000 Time Management Secret
Article Title: The $75,000 tip to keep you from drowning in email and other tasks Author Name: Dr. Donald SchnellContact Email Address: Donald@spiritualjava.comWord Count: 391Category: Personal Development, Motivation, Self HelpCopyright Date: 2003 ******************************************** Publishing Guidelines: Thank you for publishing this article in itsentirety including the resource box.. . .
Finding Your Passion
You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print as long as the resource box is included. Please notify me of publication by sending a website link or copy of your publication to deirdre@vip-coaching.com.Word Count: 618 words, 64 characters per lineFinding Your Passionby Deirdre McEachernSix years ago I was a successful high-tech professional. I had rapidly climbed the cor. . .
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